Match.com or eHarmony? Which dating site is really the best place to find love? Which site is the cheapest? And which site is the most popular? I’ll attempt to answer all of these questions and more below.
There are tens of thousands of subscription based online dating websites online, but only a very small percentage are reputable sites where you’ll have an excellent chance of finding a partner.
Luckily both Match.com and eHarmony are both very trustworthy sites and also have the largest and most active membership numbers that stretch into the millions.
I rate both sites very highly indeed, with Match.com just pinching it from eHarmony by a whisker. You’ll find my Match.com review here and also my review of eHarmony here. You’ll find that both sites have their own pros and cons, but neither sites are plagued by fake profiles which is a huge plus and the most important consideration when joining an online dating site.
Who Do I Recommend: Match.com or eHarmony?
I probably get asked over 20 times per day which dating site I recommend: Match.com or eHarmony? The answer is not so straightforward, but if I had to pick between one of them I’d go for Match.com for three very good reasons.
Would you like to know what these reasons are? If you would then please do read on…
If not, then the following big green buttons will take you straight over to Match.com where you can start a free trial (no credit card needed). Just complete the registration form and you’ll be ready to start your online dating adventure!
I personally know a lot more people who have met their partners on Match.com than on eHarmony. My brother met his wife on Match.com and also a best friend met her husband on Match.com too. I’ve also been contacted on this site by a lot more people who have had success on Match than eHarmony. That’s not to say that eHarmony does not work, it just seems to be more people are having success with Match.
How both sites handle searching is very different. eHarmony basically automates this for you based on the results from your membership questionnaire, unfortunately sometimes you’ll end up with no matches at all and can’t do anything about it. No matches on eHarmony means you will not see any profiles and you won’t be able to contact anyone.
On Match.com however you are left to search for your own matches using an exhaustive list of search options. There are no restrictions here and you will be spoilt for choice if you live in a large town or city.
eHarmony is only a little bit cheaper if you join for 12 months. Personally I always recommend taking out a 6 month membership since 1 and 3 months are often too short to find your soul mate and 12 months is really far too long. A 6 month membership on match.com is almost half the price of eHarmony.
Membership Prices: Match.com vs eHarmony
As I’ve just mentioned above, eHarmony is only slightly cheaper when you signup for 12 months. And as you’ll see below, eHarmony is significantly more expensive than Match.com for both the 6 month and the 3 months membership packages.
|12 Month Subscription: Match.com $20.99 Per Month|
|12 Month Subscription: eHarmony $18.95 Per Month|
|6 Month Subscription: Match.com $23.99 Per Month|
|6 Month Subscription: eHarmony $39.95 Per Month|
|3 Month Subscription: Match.com $26.99 Per Month|
|3 Month Subscription: eHarmony $59.95 Per Month|
|12 Month Subscription: Match.com £12.99 Per Month|
|12 Month Subscription: eHarmony £12.95 Per Month|
|6 Month Subscription: Match.com £19.99 Per Month|
|6 Month Subscription: eHarmony £28.95 Per Month|
|3 Month Subscription: Match.com £29.99 Per Month|
|3 Month Subscription: eHarmony £36.95 Per Month|
You might be thinking that the subscription prices for both dating sites are high, but when you think about how much you can spend searching for a date in the real World, then dating online can actually save you money. The following video from eHarmony provides some great examples:
eHarmony vs Match.com – How Do the Sites Work?
Both sites work very differently from each other when it comes to helping you to find a partner. I’ll try to explain and compare how they both work below:
How eHarmony Works
eHarmony takes automated matchmaking to a whole new level. After you have registered on their site they’ll ask you to complete what they call their Personality Questionnaire. For this you’ll need a big mug of coffee and a packet of your favorite biscuits because there are over one hundred questions to get through!
What kind of questions will they ask you? And what is the purpose? The questions asked are designed to find out more about you, your personality, your hobbies, your values, as well as the usual hair and eye color. The purpose being to match you with other members on their site who have similar personalities to yourself, as apparently on eHarmony opposites definitely don’t attract!
Once you have completed the questionnaire you can’t go back and change it, so it really is in your best interests to answer honestly.
What you won’t find on eHarmony is the standard search option. That’s because they do all the searching for you based on the results from your questionaire. Each day they will send you new matches to review.
There are both pros and cons to this method. The pros are that it will save you from reading thousands and thousands of profiles to find people that you feel you have something in common with and would like to message. Because the matches presented to you should be very similar to yourself in terms of personality and character traits.
The cons however can sometimes outweigh the pros. The cons are mainly flexibility. You can only contact your daily matches, and if your daily matches don’t excite you then you’ll have to wait till the next day to view more profiles. It can also be the case that if you live in a small town with not so many members you may have zero daily matches! In which case you are paying for nothing.
In terms of messaging eHarmony works like every other dating site. If you like the sounds of someone you simply send them a message. You’ll also be glad to know that the site is fully mobile optimized and there is a mobile app available for iPhones and Androids.
How Match.com Works
Unlike eHarmony there is very little in the way of automated matchmaking on match.com. It’s up to you to search through the millions of singles on the site and try to filter out the ones that are most appealing to you.
Of course you can narrow the search down to your local town/city, height, age, religion etc.. This certainly helps to make the numbers more manageable. But you will still need to read through their profiles to discover if you have anything in common. But of course, you can’t really expect finding your soul mate not to involve a little work!
You’ll find a lot more silly options on match.com such as ice breakers and winks which I generally recommend you avoid at all costs. If you are interested in someone then write them a personalized message, don’t just wink at them. When has winking at someone across the bar ever landed you a date? If it’s unlikely to work in the real world, then it’s unlikely to work online as well.
You will also find free mobile apps for the iPhone and Android on Match too, so you can also keep tabs on your messages whilst you are out of the house.
eHarmony vs Match.com Summary
eHarmony is like driving a car with an automatic gearbox, whereas Match.com is most definitely a manual gearbox. On eHarmony all of the work is done for you. However sometimes an automatic is a little too restrictive and you want to have a bit more fun on the open road. This is where Match.com really starts to shine.
Online dating in 2016 is bigger than ever, and there are more dating sites to chose from than there are candies in a candy shop. But unless you want to waste your money, I definitely only recommend looking at Match.com or eHarmony. And like I mentioned earlier, Match.com just beats eHarmony to the post.
Whichever site you decide to join, just remember that although there are millions of singles on both sites, it does not necessarily make it any easier to find someone. It will take time and you’ll have to put in the effort, but this is the same for anything in life that is worth achieving.
Still Not Sure?
If you are still not sure which site you would like to join, then why not just sign up to both.
The free trials that both sites offer do not require payment, so you can find out for yourself which site you prefer before committing to a paid membership.
Whichever site you join, please remember to cancel the automatic renewals on your subscription. As if you find someone early on you most likely won’t want your membership extended automatically. You’ll find this option under your account settings.
Good Luck and Have Fun! X